My Story

My name is Cator Sparks and I’m so happy you have found me! I am an ICF-certified CPCC (Certified Professional Coactive Coach) life coach and I focus on men. All men. Through my years of coaching men, it has been a joy to genuinely connect with other men to help shake the beehive that is life. To help them set goals, hold them accountable, and watch them heal and come home to their true selves. It’s time to retire the phrases, “Boys don’t cry,” “Grow a pair,” “Man up” and “Winners never quit,” and rethink what it’s like to be a modern man.

Born and raised in Atlanta, Georgia, I came out when I was 18 and have been living out and proud ever since. Let’s not get it twisted though, it has been a journey of self-discovery that continues to this day.  I grappled with too much drinking, drugs, and sex to fill the deep holes that bullying and the resulting shame had created. It’s through my work with a life coach that I began to heal and saw the value in this work.

I spent 20 years in New York City as an editor and journalist focused on men’s fashion, travel, and design. You can check out that part of my life here. In 2013 I relocated to Charleston, South Carolina where my heart feels happy and my spirit is satiated. I started my coaching journey in 2019 and have since established my private practice as well as coaching for Boon Health and EVRYMAN. I live downtown with my two Scottish Terriers, Fergus and Gareth and my home is my happy place. Nothing brings more joy than hosting a dinner party for new and old friends to connect in community (no phones allowed!). While I was married for a short time, I am now happily partnered. We don’t live together and don’t plan to. We have openly communicated on exactly what we want and need in a relationship. Oh, he also designed my site, so thanks babe!

Testimonials

  • “Cator’s understanding of the world I live in, his honesty (even if brutal), his charming nature and his expansive knowledge has helped me grow so much. It has allowed me to approach life in a new way and evolve my very stubborn self-perspective into a positive critical approach. He will forever be my friend and hopefully continue to be my guiding light.”

    Sam

  • “On a couple occasions, Cator has provided feedback and statements that make me not like him but, are essential to my growth. An example would be a simple statement such as “are you seeking validation?” in relation to volunteer work that absorbs a great deal of my time. This simple statement forced me to dig deep. My goal of seeking a life coach and the process that I am experiencing with Cator has been helpful for me to better understand myself and motivations. And, I really do like him.”

    Dan

  • "Cator is a coach who is thoughtful, present, and fully engaged. He understands that the role of a coach is to create an environment that safety and trust are the backbones for transformation. Getting a coach was a difficult process because I had grown up without much of a support system or safety nets so I felt I was always overcompensating and overworking myself- which was exhausting and hurtful. Cator helped me realize that it was ok to reach out to people, to trust and open up.”

    Leo

  • “Cator’s strength as a coach comes from his deep empathy as a solid human. He is knowledgeable and skilled, and that comes through as he motivates you and gets you out of ruts, leading you to places you didn’t know you wanted to go. He is informed and spurs you to seek new information for yourself, all the while causing you to discover new corners about yourself. Cator is tough but always kind and caring. By your side, he takes you forward to a better life.”

    Henry

Credentials

Media

  • Podcast

    Queer We Are

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  • Podcast

    The Authentic Gay Man Podcast

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  • Article

    Charleston City Paper

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  • Article

    Medium

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  • Podcast

    The Authenticity Road Podcast

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  • Podcast

    Gays Against Guns

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  • Podcast

    Life in Stitches

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I would love to hear from you. I connect with clients remotely using FaceTime or Zoom. The first ‘Discovery’ session is 30 minutes and $75. One-hour sessions are $175. I ask for a minimum of a three-month commitment (two sessions a month) so that we have the proper time and space to dig deep, set goals, and see results. 

If money is an issue, I am here for you and we can work something out!